1.) Are you a mediator Yes or No? Yes.
2.) What is the primary job of a mediator? A mediator's primary job is to provide mediation for the 2 disputing parties who are in conflict with one another & who are not on speaking terms with each other. The mediator have the 2 disputing parties sit down and write down their disputes with each other on paper. The mediator is the facilitator by reading the 2 disputing parties disputes with one another and once the 2 disputing parties can come to speaking terms with each other, the mediator offer a solution that help resolves the 2 parties conflicts.
3.) Are mediators similar to marriage counselors? Absolutely not!
4.) What is the difference between a mediator and a marriage counselor? Mediators can be single or married. Mediators provide an atmosphere that is comfortable for them & the 2 disputing parties where the 2 disputing parties can open up and get things off their chest by expressing themselves to where there can be a conflict resolution. Marriage counselors are married couples who provide counseling to married couples who are having problems in their marriage such as the following: Infidelity, abuse (both verbal abuse and physical abuse), and lack of affection in their marriage.
5.) Is a person who is a mediator have hidden talent or non hidden talent? Mediator's are considered to be people with hidden talent because he or she deals with disputes in a public place where it's just one mediator dealing with 2 disputing parties or 2 mediators dealing with a group of 4 with 2 disputing parties.
6.) What makes a person a good mediator? A good mediator is someone who is calm, a peacemaker, and who can deal with the not so roughest & the roughest of the disputing parties.
7.) When did you start to realize that you have the qualities to be a good mediator? I'm peaceful, I always wanted people to resolve their disputes that they have with each other in a mature & classy way, and people could see that in me.
8.) Do you remember the first time that you became a mediator? Yes!
9.) When did you first started being a mediator? I was one of the students who was selected to be a peer mediator (fellow students who have disputes with one another where a student mediator help 2 disputing parties resolve their conflicts with each other) my Sophomore year in high school back in 1994.
10.) What made you develop the qualities of a good mediator when dealing with 2 disputing parties who are on the verge of fist fighting with one another? I observed 2 disputing parties through role playing who were on the verge of fist fighting & I also observed 2 disputing parties who were on the verge of fist fighting in real life. Sometimes it's best to let them calm down because chances are if the mediator try to come in between a fist fight he or she could catch a really hard blow from a sucker punch.
11.) Can mediation be good for married couples who have disputes with each other or is mediation only for 2 single people or divorced couples who have disputes with each other? Mediation is good for single people, married couples, and divorced couples.
12.) How can a mediator get a husband and a wife to sit down and try to resolve an argument that they had with one another? A mediator can help a married couple by getting them to write on paper what it is that have them not on speaking terms with one another. Once the mediator provide a good atmosphere to where the 2 disputing parties will agree to come there to work out their differences then he or she can get the 2 disputing parties to be on speaking terms because it's in the married couples element because if one spouse is upset then the other spouse usually try to resolve things with the spouse who is upset. Once the 2 disputing parties are on speaking terms, then the mediator will offer a solution to where the married couple can agree to use a mediator style technique with one another when they have arguments.
13.) Why do you think that people feel that mediation is only for 2 single people or divorced couples who are arguing with each other and not for married couples who are arguing with each other? In my opinion, I feel that the reason why people see mediation as only for 2 single people or divorced couples who are in dispute with one another is because most single people have problems & tend to lose their temper by doing dumb things that they regret. Divorced couples tend to dispute with each other over who gets the house, who gets the money, who gets custody over their children if there are any children, etc. People usually tend to look at married couples when they are disputing with each other as getting counseling or they have each other if they argue with each other. For example, if a married couple is arguing & lets say they are at a restaurant. The husband and wife have a heated argument over one of the bills they have to share in their household. The husband gets mad and leaves his wife at the restaurant. Both the husband and wife are angry with each other. The husband is in the dog house and the wife sleeps in their bed and the husband is told that he has to sleep on the couch in the living room. Well, the next day the husband and wife is still mad with each other and they drive to work in separate cars not speaking to each other. Can you honestly say that the kind of argument that the married couple have with each other that they should go to counseling for that? I don't think so because the bickering that the married couple is doing with each other in my example can easily be resolved with mediation.
14.) Give an example of 2 disputing parties with each other whether they are single, divorced, or married. http://citysuburb.wix.com/pauls-writing-style/apps/blog/fictional-story-mediation-the-miller-family
7.) When did you start to realize that you have the qualities to be a good mediator? I'm peaceful, I always wanted people to resolve their disputes that they have with each other in a mature & classy way, and people could see that in me.
8.) Do you remember the first time that you became a mediator? Yes!
9.) When did you first started being a mediator? I was one of the students who was selected to be a peer mediator (fellow students who have disputes with one another where a student mediator help 2 disputing parties resolve their conflicts with each other) my Sophomore year in high school back in 1994.
10.) What made you develop the qualities of a good mediator when dealing with 2 disputing parties who are on the verge of fist fighting with one another? I observed 2 disputing parties through role playing who were on the verge of fist fighting & I also observed 2 disputing parties who were on the verge of fist fighting in real life. Sometimes it's best to let them calm down because chances are if the mediator try to come in between a fist fight he or she could catch a really hard blow from a sucker punch.
11.) Can mediation be good for married couples who have disputes with each other or is mediation only for 2 single people or divorced couples who have disputes with each other? Mediation is good for single people, married couples, and divorced couples.
12.) How can a mediator get a husband and a wife to sit down and try to resolve an argument that they had with one another? A mediator can help a married couple by getting them to write on paper what it is that have them not on speaking terms with one another. Once the mediator provide a good atmosphere to where the 2 disputing parties will agree to come there to work out their differences then he or she can get the 2 disputing parties to be on speaking terms because it's in the married couples element because if one spouse is upset then the other spouse usually try to resolve things with the spouse who is upset. Once the 2 disputing parties are on speaking terms, then the mediator will offer a solution to where the married couple can agree to use a mediator style technique with one another when they have arguments.
13.) Why do you think that people feel that mediation is only for 2 single people or divorced couples who are arguing with each other and not for married couples who are arguing with each other? In my opinion, I feel that the reason why people see mediation as only for 2 single people or divorced couples who are in dispute with one another is because most single people have problems & tend to lose their temper by doing dumb things that they regret. Divorced couples tend to dispute with each other over who gets the house, who gets the money, who gets custody over their children if there are any children, etc. People usually tend to look at married couples when they are disputing with each other as getting counseling or they have each other if they argue with each other. For example, if a married couple is arguing & lets say they are at a restaurant. The husband and wife have a heated argument over one of the bills they have to share in their household. The husband gets mad and leaves his wife at the restaurant. Both the husband and wife are angry with each other. The husband is in the dog house and the wife sleeps in their bed and the husband is told that he has to sleep on the couch in the living room. Well, the next day the husband and wife is still mad with each other and they drive to work in separate cars not speaking to each other. Can you honestly say that the kind of argument that the married couple have with each other that they should go to counseling for that? I don't think so because the bickering that the married couple is doing with each other in my example can easily be resolved with mediation.
14.) Give an example of 2 disputing parties with each other whether they are single, divorced, or married. http://citysuburb.wix.com/pauls-writing-style/apps/blog/fictional-story-mediation-the-miller-family
